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We all fall down

Last week, a colleague arranged a big lunch order from Sadat’s, a local restaurant recently hit by a costly scam. Along with eating delicious food, it was a chance for a bunch of cool people and me to eat lunch together. I’m usually socially awkward af, but this was pretty nice!

We wound up telling stories of embarrassing times we fell down in front of other people. It was kind of lovely. Everybody falls down.

I’m mentioning this because I usually fall (uuugh sorry) into the pattern of asking boring questions – “what department are you in? What classes are you teaching?” and that’s not actually a very good way of getting to know someone. Telling stories is much better.

Problem is, I’m not very good at telling stories. If you have suggestions, I’d love to hear them. As long as they don’t involve listening to self-promoting white men on youtube.

One Comment

  1. elmine
    elmine December 6, 2019

    Your request reminds me of my own journey to become a better storyteller (http://storymin.es/en/2012/04/not-a-story-teller-by-nurture/). One thing that really helped me was to take a creative writing class. There I learned to focus on writing a story in the here and now, using the senses. It helped me to become a better storyteller in conversation as well.

    My experience is that you only become better at it through practice. Theorizing in your mind doesn’t work. So why don’t you schedule a regular meeting (perhaps a lunch with colleagues once a month) where you pick a theme (something that evokes emotion, like when is the last time you felt embarrassed (that’s why the falling stories worked really well)) and together focus on telling it like it happened just a few moments ago. Include details what the place looked like, what you could hear, what you felt inside, what the weather was like, what you could smell. Details that matter make a story memorable.

    Meeting people like that is way more fun than watching self-promoting white men on youtube 😉 And it gives the social gathering a focus so you don’t have to worry about asking boring questions to get the conversation going. Even introverts can shine 🙂

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